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Children online
Children online

A webcam looks after the baby like a nanny, and a virtual tutor takes care of intellectual development… The world of high technologies is fascinating. But is it possible to let the child go on long walks?

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A webcam looks after the baby like a nanny, and a virtual tutor takes care of intellectual development… The world of high technologies is fascinating. But is it possible to let the child go on long walks?

"No way!" - the grandmother will say and remember that you were brought up without any Internet computers and even the absence of home phones in every family did not prevent you from growing up as full-fledged citizens. Do not argue with your grandmother, especially since her tirade is not devoid of common sense: without an LCD display in front of the eyes and hands-free in the ear, the child will grow up he althy, will not spoil vision or hearing ahead of time. But, on the other hand, why walk if the bicycle has already been invented? To deny what progress has come up with is at least strange.


First encounter:

Should take place no earlier than 8-9 years old (permissible, but undesirable - from the first grade). At this age, for the first time, a child may need simple programs (Word, Excel, Internet Explorer, or another web browser) to do some homework or communicate with classmates. If you cannot be classified as an advanced user, take care of specialized literature (select both books written specifically for children and learning aids for yourself). The first sessions at the computer should not exceed 20 minutes, for children 6-7 years old - 15 minutes, for teenagers (12-15 years old) - half an hour. Every month, the time at the monitor can be extended by 5-10 minutes, bringing up to 1.5-2 hours a day. Optimal schedule for a child: 15 minutes of work and a 10-minute break (and not at the TV or with a book on the couch!).


  • Don't skimp on quality. LCD monitor is not a luxury, but an investment in family he alth. You don't have to choose the most expensive computer; consult with consultants in the store, they will suggest the best option suitable for both the child and other family members. And you can always upgrade your computer by purchasing additional memory or writing a DVD-rom.
  • Don't put a computer in a child's bedroom, even if you bought it as a gift for a child. By doing this, you not only violate the harmony of space according to Feng Shui: there is a risk that at night, when you fall asleep, your child will secretly turn on the computer.
  • Agree how much time your child will spend daily in virtual reality. Some parents even sign a “contract” with their children and hang it in a prominent place near the monitor: “I, the undersigned, promise that I will spend no more than 1 hour a day at the computer and only after I finish my homework …” Next to “contract, you can put an hourglass or a kitchen timer, the signal of which will serve as the end of the cyber session. A timer or clock will also come in handy for timing your computer breaks.

Plipped Threats:

  • Forbidden sites. The statistics are frightening: 9 out of 10 children aged 8 to 15 have encountered pornography online, about 17% regularly look at forbidden resources, about 5, 5% are ready to put what they see there into reality … But porn and erotic sites are only a tenth of online information that is inappropriate for your baby by age. Alas, on the Internet you can come across sites that promote violence, racial intolerance, cruelty…

It is impossible to keep track of all the information that gets on the Internet every second, and a child may accidentally go to a site where they will paint in colors how pleasant drugs taste, what wonders alcohol does with the body or how at home from improvised means to prepare a real explosive. On untrusted sites, you can catch a virus. Finally, even on seemingly benevolent network resources, troubles happen: for example, in a pop-up "advertising" window there is a photograph of a naked body or even more explicit scenes that are clearly not for children's eyes. Parents of every “cyber child” should know about these details.

Control measures:

  • The most important thing is to maintain a trusting relationship with your child and tell him in advance about what you might encounter on the World Wide Web. Express yourself in understandable words: tell me that the Internet is like the world outside the window of your apartment, just as interesting and rich, but there are also dark gateways, and strange strangers, and dangerous dens where it is better for a child not to “walk” for his safety. Compare the Internet with the world familiar to the child, so he will quickly get used to the virtual world and remember the safety rules.
  • With a child up to 10-12 years old go on an “internet walk” with just the two of you. Let him sit at the keyboard and use the mouse, the main thing is that you control the entire route of your journey.
  • If your child is using the Internet alone, consider a specific filtering program option. To date, such Internet nannies as Goalkeeper, Panda Platinum Internet Security, Child Stop, Surf Watch, CyberSitter, Net Nanny are known. Unfortunately, these programs are paid, moreover, most of them “filter” only English-language sites, and Runet pages cannot be recognized. However, consider such a program. It will control the content of the web pages that the child visits, store the text of all requests that he sends to search engines, and block access to sites that you have blacklisted your computer. If you are unable to purchase such a program, then regularly review the history (“log”) of your web browser to find out what sites your child has visited.
  • Install a good antivirus on your computer and keep it on all the time. It is not so important whether you prefer Kaspersky Anti-Virus, Doctor Web or some other program, the most important thing is that you do not forget to regularly download anti-virus database updates and at least twice a week conduct a full scan of your computer. If the activity of the child on the Internet is too high, it is better to carry out a full check every time after he has visited the World Wide Web. Also, install a good firewall program (such as a firewall) that will protect your computer from hacker attacks. And in the menu of your browser, disable cookies and, if possible, turn off java support.


You can catch a computer virus not only by wandering around the nooks and crannies of the network, but also in your own mailbox. Spam is also found here - sending messages of an advertising or entertaining nature. In addition, you can receive messages by mail or ICQ, the content of which is clearly not for children's eyes: for several years now, parents have been complaining that virtual hooligans are sending files or links to sites with funny computer games, children are willing to look at their content, but suddenly the grin of a dead man pops up on the screen. Even for the psyche of an adult, such a turn of events will be unexpected … Do not be afraid to tell your child about this, remember the phrase: “Forewarned is forearmed.”

Control measures:

  • Register for your childnot one, but several mailboxes. One, personal, is better to create on the server of your provider and use it only for personal purposes, for correspondence with friends. Get the second one on a free mail server (,,,, etc.) - the child will be able to leave this address in the public domain on the Internet, for example, if he registers in online games, on forums or receives participation in children's virtual competitions.
  • Explain to your child that it is better to give your home e-mail only to people whom he personally knows; you can not publish it on sites or in electronic profiles where they can be found by any stranger. Email addresses of friends and family should also be kept private.
  • Put a spam filter. Many mail programs have built-in filters (including if you use free mailboxes, for example, on,, etc.). You can explain to a teenager in a simple way how to set up a spam filter yourself.
  • If spam still gets into the mailbox, let the child remember: replying to spam emails is strictly prohibited! Having responded, we give confirmation to the spam sender: yes, this email address is up-to-date, valid, we use it. Most likely, after one such response, the volume of spam will increase several times. Even if the spam email contains the phrases: “Unsubscribe from the mailing list”, “Remove my address from the mailing list”, you should never respond to this provocation! It's better to just delete the letter and, if possible, add the return address to the spam filter.
  • Be sure to tell your child that under no circumstances should you open attachments that came from unknown addresses. However, this also applies to acquaintances - often even friends can accidentally, without checking, send a file infected with a virus. Explain to your child that attached files may contain dangerous viruses that will simply destroy absolutely everything that is on your computer. Including his favorite games, files with drawings and photos, and even completed homework and essays. These arguments should sound very convincing, and the child will henceforth consult with you before opening the attached file.


It would seem that what's wrong with a child communicating with other people in real time? But it's one thing if he discusses cartoons with a peer friend, and quite another if his interlocutor is an adult posing as a child. Every year, about 30% of young Internet users are harassed by pedophiles via the Internet. Attackers use standard tricks that always work: impersonate fairy tale characters, send links to “an interesting resource with funny pictures,” or offer to meet to exchange posters of their favorite football club. And a child is usually very trusting…

Control measures:

  • Explain to your child that his friends from chat rooms and forums can be deceivers. You should not be frank with them, share experiences, talk about your family or news, and in no case should you make appointments with them! It will be difficult for the child to believe this, but find suitable arguments to convey to him: even if a friend from the chat sent his photo, with which a good-natured boy smiles, an evil and treacherous uncle can actually be sitting on the other side of the screen. And even if he listens to your child so carefully and helps with good advice, it may turn out that he is just waiting for a reason to offend your baby. By the way, if your child is really frank with unknown people, this will serve as an extra reason for reflection for you …
  • Prohibit your child from posting on the Internet and telling anyone your address, home phone number, mobile number, age, real name and even first name and send your photos to strangers. It is better if, before going online for the first time, you tell your child a story that the Internet is a world where all people live and communicate without seeing each other's real faces. It's like a game - everyone takes on the image that he himself invented. Come up with a network name and surname for your young Internet guru. Let him be the Courageous Lion or the Fearless Tramp on the net; maintain this image while the baby is surfing the net, but do not forget to exit it by turning off the computer…
  • Tell me about the techniques of online pedophiles. Remind your child regularly that there is nothing shameful or scary about telling you about any proposals for meetings, calls or threatening letters. Explain that you in no way encroach on his independence and do not choose his friends. It's just that the Internet is very insidious, and sometimes it can be downright dangerous…


And goodbye, mother's bonus and father's advance!.. It is online resources that lead the list of reasons that encourage a child to steal money from their parents. If you wish, you can buy absolutely everything here and completely legally - a disc of your favorite singer or perfume for your mother, and semi-legally - through a bulletin board or a specialized forum - drugs, weapons, sexual toys … And in a virtual casino that temptingly offers to win an exorbitant amount, you really want to try your luck.

Control measures:

  • As in the case of prohibited sites, control your child's access to unwanted resources - by always being nearby, if possible, or using a special program for this.
  • Tell your child that there is no easy money, just like online freebies. Remind me that free cheese is only in the mousetrap. The child will not be able to earn on mailing lists, banner displays or on virtual roulette. But it is quite possible to get into an unpleasant situation. If he is persistently looking for online earnings, think about whether it is time to find him a feasible part-time job outside the virtual world.


First encounter:

  • Not earlier than 7 years old. Despite the fact that you can sit down at the monitor at an earlier age, games inevitably cause nervous and psycho-emotional overstrain, and preschoolers are simply unable to adequately with it cope. In addition, a baby who has joined the world of games early is more at risk of becoming addicted to games. After all, in the unreal world, he can be anyone - Napoleon, Tarzan, a beautiful princess or a nimble, quick-witted mouse, in reality remaining a not very agile, lazy or spoiled mother's son, acutely feeling his imperfection. The game helps him liberate himself, but her fictional world sucks in and getting out of it back to living people is more and more difficult each time. Such "defectors" are called gamers (from the English game - "game"), they know much more about games than about the reality that surrounds them.
  • Children under 10-12 years old can be played no more than 2 times for 20-30 minutes a day with a break of 1.5-2 hours (it is better to spend them on fresh air or get some sleep at home). Teenagers are allowed to play games for about 40-50 minutes 2-3 times a day and be sure to take breaks for at least an hour and a half.


As with a personal computer, don't place a set-top box in a child's room to limit the child's access to it. Immediately agree on how many hours a day or a week the child will play, and be sure to keep track of which games the child prefers to take the young gamer to a child psychologist if necessary.

Plipped Threats:

  • cruel or violent games, games for adults,
  • games of inappropriate content - something that online gaming portals often sin. Here you can, for example, dismember the enemy with a chainsaw, play on the side of the terrorists and meet bright topless blondes. However, some purchased games allow similar elements. There is only one way out - carefully check the computer game, carefully read everything that is written on its box, from time to time approach your young gamer or play with him for the first time.


  • Everything needs to be measured. According to the methods of Glenn Doman, you can develop a baby from the cradle, but it is unlikely that you will teach the baby the basics of mechanics and atomic physics. Psychologists are in a panic: modern children are clearly ahead of their peers 5-7 years ago in intellectual development, but at the same time, parents are increasingly forgetting about their emotional age and their physical development. But the emotional and physical side of development is much more important than the intellectual development of the child. Toddlers can read English, but they run badly and suffer from dozens of phobias… That's why you should be very careful with learning games. Even if they are "recommended for preschoolers," your little one may not be quite ready for them yet.

Control measures:

  • Main rule:play a computer game yourself to understand if it is suitable for a child, whether it is worth playing now, in a couple of years, or is it better to throw the disc away right away while the child did not find it.
  • To determine if the game is age appropriate, add 3 to 6 months to the data indicated on the label (and even 1-1.5 years if your baby excitable, emotionally unstable, showing signs of gambling, gambling addiction, or under 6-7 years old).
  • Read the reviews of the game on the Internet before you buy it. It's a good idea to ask your friends what good games their children have.
  • Give preference to games with those characters that your child already knows from fairy tales, cartoons or your stories.

Dangerous symptoms


  • after conflicts, quarrels or just in a bad mood, immediately grabs a mobile phone or sits down at a computer;
  • even in his free time from the computer continues to discuss with you or with friends what happened to him online or in the game;
  • refuses to use books, encyclopedias, consult with teachers or adults, and seeks to find the necessary information only through the Internet;
  • usually quiet, depressed, secretive, but the situation changes radically (eyes burn) when he goes online or starts playing.


- Internet addiction, accompanied by fever, fever, swelling, trembling hands or fingers, nervous tics. Patients with this diagnosis spend 16-18 hours a day at the computer, complain of an almost narcotic dependence on the Internet - a desire to connect to the network as soon as possible, barely woke up or returned home, and a state of depression or aggression if this cannot be done for a long time. The largest age group with such complaints are teenagers aged 14 to 19.


Useful links - Safer Internet Portal - "Child on the Net" - "Children and the Internet". Frequently Asked Questions on the Microsoft website - information and analytical resource "Your personal Internet"

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