Choosing a nanny

Choosing a nanny
Choosing a nanny

Daddy has to go to work. Grandmother hurries to the meeting - she is in a responsible position. Mom needs to rehearse. And the little "fif" needs a nanny… The plot is familiar to us not only from the film "For Family Circumstances".

Choosing a nanny

For a long time in Russia, a young and moderately we althy mother had a reliable assistant nanny who raised her baby from the cradle. She taught the child the wisdom of life, she was trusted with the innermost secrets of the family. Today, interest in this profession is experiencing another surge. Although labor law provides for parental leave, many young mothers do not enjoy this privilege: they do not want to stumble on career steps. But even the most career-oriented or carefree mom gets picky when it comes to raising a child. There are hundreds of reservations, a whole windbreak of questions and arguments for and against the next candidate. How to choose a nanny who would find a common language with the baby, with you and at the same time would not encroach on either your property or the head of the family? How to find a good nanny and recognize a liar? How not to overpay and stay in a favorable position? We will resolve these issues as they arise.


First, let's figure out why you need a nanny. Will she babysit while you are at work? Will it take several times? Will the nanny live with you or come as needed? Weekend nanny, vacation nanny… The options can be varied, but the main thing depends on your goals - the price of the issue. A coming nanny will cost more than one that will live in a family. But, on the other hand, you may not need the presence of a stranger every second. Prices and terms of selection will vary significantly depending on the age of the "client". After all, at every stage of a child's life, you will make more and more new demands on his teacher.

0 to 1 year old Best of all, a specialist with a medical background will take care of the newborn. Certified teachers and child psychologists will come later, and in the first year of life there is nothing more important than he alth. A nanny should understand modern baby food, know exactly all the rules for caring for a baby, and not just be able to change a diaper. If you want your baby to be engaged in early development methods, look for a specialist with the appropriate education.

From 1 year to 3 years Let's expand the requirements for a "baby" nanny: in addition to medical qualifications, it's good that the nanny has knowledge in the field of psychology. Indeed, up to three years, the child's psyche is laid, and it is important that all stages of its development pass exactly according to the recommendations of modern specialists. For children of this age, it is recommended to select a teacher at least thirty-five years old.

From 3 to 6 years old A child who explores the world at this age should not only be fed, cleanly washed and neatly dressed - it's time for him to acquire skills that will be useful in adulthood. Look for a nanny who graduated from a pedagogical university, or better - with experience in primary school or preschool.

Over 6 years old A preschooler, and especially a school-age child, needs not so much a nanny as a tutor. In this case, one cannot do without a teacher's diploma, but information about medical education fades into the background and is not at all mandatory. Primary school teacher, foreign language teacher, music teacher - you have different options and combinations of them to provide a decent education for your child.


Recommended The easiest and painless way. Interview colleagues or mothers walking with babies in your yard: for sure there will be those among them who themselves (or acquaintances) have already used the services of babysitters.


  • good recommendations from trusted people - certain "quality assurance";
  • no need to pay brokerage fees.


  • a certain discomfort: a nanny hired on someone's recommendation, or, moreover, someone's relative is harder to fire than a complete stranger;
  • the risk that your family secrets that the nanny comes into contact with will become known to your acquaintances;
  • with a nanny "by acquaintance" most often an employment contract is not concluded. In this case, there is a threat of sudden termination of the business relationship.

According to the ad If you didn't find a nanny in your closest circle, try expanding your search range. To get started, look through job advertisements in newspapers and look on the Internet, where there are special notice boards for domestic staff. If there is no suitable option, publish your own job advertisement. In this case, it is better not to leave your home phone: limit yourself to mobile or work, and also indicate the exact hours when you can be called.


  • no need to pay recruitment fees;
  • nannies who look for work through newspapers and the Internet tend to claim lower salaries than those who come through an agency.


  • you're inviting a complete stranger into your house, which might not be safe;
  • get ready to filter incoming calls from potential candidates. Many of them may not be adequate. Often, small recruitment agencies call on ads from individuals, develop a strategy for dealing with them;
  • you have to conduct several face-to-face interviews with nannies. It is better to do this not in your own apartment, but to organize the first conversation in a cafe.

Through agencies The most comfortable and most costly way. It is best to get acquainted with the conditions of the agency, compare several possible options and select 2-3 agencies with which you could cooperate. Those who need only an application via the Internet, obviously lose in front of those intermediaries who invite their mother to a meeting in the office or go home. Before meeting with the agency staff, clearly draw the “profile” of the future employee, write down all the requirements that you make of her, think over the conditions of her work, anticipating the questions that usually arise at such meetings.


  • a good agency has an impressive database of candidates and will probably immediately offer you several options to choose from;
  • the agency is usually responsible for the reliability of the work and the validity of the recommendation;
  • in case of illness or dismissal of a nanny, the agency usually selects a worthy replacement for her for free;
  • your relationship with the nanny is legal.


  • a certain remuneration will have to be paid for the work of the intermediary;
  • small or not very popular agencies may neglect their duties or perform them not to the extent that was agreed (do not check nannies, do not draw up an employment contract, do not replace nannies for free). Of course, you can sue them - but this is both a waste of time and effort. And who will sit with the baby at this time?


Candidates for the role of a nanny have been selected. Now we have to make a difficult choice. Before the meeting, make a list of your requirements for a future nanny. Invite your husband to do the same. Now check your lists. Cross out everything you can do without. Some parents easily give up the ideal order in the house. Others agree that the nanny does not know three languages ​​and does not understand the laws of physics. Someone will agree to hire a younger nanny. Of course, there is less experience, but the energy and zeal are evident! Prepare in advance the questions that you are going to ask the future nanny. Write them down and keep the sheet in front of you, otherwise you will certainly miss something important. Undoubtedly, the conversation involves elements of spontaneity, so do not be surprised if you ask a lot more questions than you thought before meeting with the nanny. The main thing is that you do not miss anything significant, however, you will have a cheat sheet with you, where everything is stated point by point.

  • Ask the candidate what made her look for this particular job. Sometimes this is the first and last question.
  • Experience of similar work: has the nanny ever worked with children? If so, ask for more details about previous jobs. If this is the first attempt to become a nanny, then you should not automatically cross off the newcomer from the list of potential employees. Maybe she's an experienced mom. Or a very responsible young girl who gladly helped her parents raise their little brothers. A mature worker should be asked what made her say goodbye to previous employers.
  • How will a nanny handle a child who refuses to follow orders or breaks taboos? Don't expect your nanny to quote chapters from a book on pedagogy. Listen carefully to her answers. If she generally showed common sense and restraint, at least in theory, this is a good sign. Gradually, you will develop a common line of behavior with the child.
  • What does a nanny do when she is very upset or angry? Anger happens even in the most patient and self-possessed people. But how they manifest it and contain it is exactly what you are trying to understand.
  • What will the nanny do if the child cuts himself or chokes? Or seriously ill? An experienced nanny will memorize all first aid measures in case of emergency.
  • How long does the nanny need this job? Changing a nanny injures the baby, and adds a headache to you. Again, start searching, interviewing, taking time off from work, getting used to…
  • On what terms? Set clear hours and days of work. If the nanny will live in your family, she still needs to know what hours she can count on personal time. Be prepared to provide the applicant with a list of her future responsibilities. Think carefully about what you yourself want: a housekeeper, a cook, a housekeeper and a governess all rolled into one? It happens. True, much more expensive. The more household chores your nanny has, the less time and energy she will have for caring for your child, for his full-fledged upbringing and development. The issue of earnings should be resolved at the first meeting to the mutual satisfaction of the parties.
  • Recommendations. You can ask a nanny with experience for letters from previous employers. If this is young Mary Poppins' first job, if possible discuss her business skills with someone who knows the applicant well. Looks like you've come to the end of your first interview. What's next? Don't rush to answer. Give yourself time to replay the first meeting and think. Listen to your inner feelings. Are you comfortable with this person? Does it seem reliable and decent to you? What can she give the child? In order to make sure that your feelings are correct, meet with the nanny again and only then make a final decision.

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Under control

The negligence of some nannies among families using their services is already legendary. Moreover, on the Internet and recruitment agencies you can find blacklists of nannies who will not be hired by any self-respecting home. To control how the nanny hired by you works with the baby, you can:

  • ask the child, if he already knows how to talk, about whether he likes his aunt, whether he likes to play with her, whether she feeds him tasty;
  • if the baby is not talking yet, evaluate the nanny by his reaction: does he run to her, does he cry when she appears, has his behavior changed since the nanny appeared in the house;
  • use modern technology: install a voice recorder in a children's room or turn on a webcam. This way you will get the most reliable information about what is happening in your absence;
  • ask someone from your family or friends several times without warning to visit your house while the baby is there with a nanny, ask neighbors at home or walking around
  • mom's yard: how does the nanny behave on a walk, what is she doing, how attentive is she to the ward?

Historical background

The first professional nannies appeared in Russia only at the end of the 19th century. In St. Petersburg, at the courses of the Frebel Society, a school for nannies was opened, where they recruited girls who had reached the age of 14, who had completed a course at school. For the most part, they were the young daughters of soldiers, poor townspeople and peasant women. For two years of study, the nannies learned the basics of preschool education, folklore, and the intricacies of washing and sewing children's clothes and underwear.

Home Recruitment Agencies:

  • "Friendly family": (095) 203 6682
  • Nanny: (095) 250 6595, 250 8765 www.
  • Fairy at Home:(095) 788 3310, 518 7642
  • School of Family Staff Native Penates:(095) 683 6720 www.
  • Nanny Irena: (812) 334 0707
  • Capital personnel psychological agency: (095) 729 1703

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