“My son is 2.5 years old. He is very sensitive to praise, but sometimes he simply demands it, even if he does not deserve it. Brings me a drawing that is very poorly drawn and wants me to praise him. How to be?”
Child psychologist Natalya Barlozhetskaya answers questions from our readers
Question "My son is 2.5 years old. He is very sensitive to praise, but sometimes he just demands it, even if he doesn't deserve it. Brings me a drawing that is drawn very badly, and wants me to praise him. How to be?
Answer Praise is a must for children! Psychologically, this is one of the best ways to support and reinforce certain desirable behaviors. However, the child who is praised to the skies will have a bitter disappointment in the future.
1. A child who is praised excessively develops extrinsic motivation. He only tries to count on the next habitual praise.
2. Develop intrinsic motivation. Teach your child to appreciate his efforts and enjoy the work he does. “Did you like it yourself? I'm glad you enjoy helping others!"
3. Use praise instead of punishment and blame. Do you want to teach your child to sit quietly at the table? Praise him the moment he behaves well.
4. Praise and approval must be deserved. You do not have to constantly praise the child, sometimes it is useful to add a fly in the ointment. If you are not satisfied with the quality of the work done (drawing or cleaning), praise the kid for the contribution, but note the quality: “You are smart that you decided to give me a gift (drawing), but I know that you can do even better if you add a little color "".
5. Praise your child in detail. Do not say: "You drew it well." Say: “The house turned out beautifully, and the sun too.”