Flowers of life

Flowers of life
Flowers of life
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Flowers of life

People who make Domashniy Ochag are not just professional journalists, editors, designers, marketers. But also the wives of their husbands, housewives and, of course, loving mothers of their children. And we are concerned about the same problems as you, the readers. Today we decided to share with you our parenting anxieties. And we invite you to talk about what worries, saddens or pleases you - on our forum "Women's Council"

Maria Vinogradova

Chief Editor and Publisher. Daughter Alexandra (20 years old) and son Stepan (10 years old)

“I gave birth to my daughter very early, at eighteen. Sasha is the fruit of the first school love, which, as usual, ended in divorce. After the divorce, I began to search for personal happiness, not realizing how my child misses me. Of course, I spent all holidays and weekends with her, but for several years my grandparents were her family, and I was a holiday. I thought then that it was better for her. Why should she get used to the men who came and went, to see my tears? We have been living together for a long time, but the resentment that she was “abandoned” then remained with her daughter for life. No, no, she doesn't blame me! But the subtext of any of our disputes always remains precisely this. As if she still wants to get my attention. And I have seen it for a long time. I realized that she is a very bright person. It’s getting harder and harder for me to find the right words when I try to prove something to her, I painfully get used to the fact that she is already quite an adult and has her own opinion on any occasion. In general, it is difficult for her with me - I rarely agree with her, almost never compliment her and demand a lot from her. But when she does not call in time, my soul freezes with fear. For her - my beloved little daughter. Stepan is easier with me. First, I gave birth to him in full maternal consciousness. Secondly, he is a man. Kiss, say pleasant things about love - and do with me whatever he wants. In general, we have one problem - I am too obedient mother. I scold myself, educate myself, but my heart still melts. What I worry about the most is that he thinks too much. About everything - about global warming, about the financial crisis, about the fact that something bad could happen to me. Thinks, sad and sometimes afraid. But he does not admit this, he simply drags his beloved cat to bed so that it would not be so scary. And yet, it is very important for him to always be the best, to be the first. I teach him to calmly lose, although I myself have never been able to do this, I teach him not to fight back, although I am not completely sure that this is right. A couple more years, and he will close the door to the bathroom, he will have secrets from me, but for now we are one with him. So far I am his favorite woman. And, contrary to all reasonable precepts of psychologists, I cannot deny myself this female-motherly happiness.”

Stepan: “Nothing worries me. Even the financial crisis! Homeless people live too. I just want my mom to buy me more animals!" (There are already three cats at home - mom's note.)

Alexandra: “Mom always wants to change something in me - so that I dress differently, to do a different hairstyle. Why can't she love me for who I am! Also, for some reason she is afraid of becoming a grandmother!..”

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