When people have been married for 76 years, they certainly know the secrets of family relationships.
When people have been married for 76 years, they certainly know the secrets of family relationships
Ralph and Phyllis Tarrant are the oldest married couple in the UK. They often quarrel and even love this business. Ralph, 106, and Phyllis, 100, believe their differences are one of the reasons they are still together.
“Usually he allows me to have my own point of view, although Ralph himself knows everything, of course, best of all,” Phyllis smiles. But that doesn't mean we don't argue at all. We are not perfect. On various petty occasions, we often have disagreements. We don't quarrel over big things. I hope we never will.”
In this family, only Ralph does the cooking. “I cook everything in our house, and she never knows what she likes,” the husband complains. - Phyllis loves to talk, she is a talker, but my hearing aid often does not pick up her conversations. So I just can't hear her.”
“Little quarrels in the family are good,” Phyllis says. - They maintain a he althy atmosphere in relationships. We have a partnership, and this is the most important thing.”
It's amazing to talk to a man who retired 41(!) years ago. Ralph sold insurance, but since 1968 he has been retired. “Spouses must learn discipline,” he says. “And lead an honest life.”
Despite the fact that these people have passed the second hundred, they still live independently in their comfortable two-bedroom apartment. Once every two weeks, an au pair comes to them for general cleaning, and between his visits they themselves keep the house clean. They may not be as nimble as they used to be, but they are trying.
"It's important to lead an independent life," says Phyllis, a talented pianist and devoted parishioner. - Of course, many things should be done together, but there are always different interests. For example, yesterday I spent the whole day in church, and Ralph did not want to go with me. And he stayed at home alone.”
The couple still sleep in the same bed. And every morning, at seven o'clock, Ralph prepares breakfast for his beloved.