How to get a man to tell the truth?

How to get a man to tell the truth?
How to get a man to tell the truth?
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Whether we like it or not, almost all men lie. How to get them to tell the truth?

How to make a man tell the truth?

Whether we like it or not, almost all men lie. How to get them to tell the truth?

Men lie

Of course, if a man is cheating on you, that's a big enough lie to skip. But when a loved one tells you that he needs to work late just on the day when you were going to visit your mother, then most likely he simply does not want to keep you company, but at the same time does not want to offend you with this.

Doctor of Psychology Javier Amadop, author of the book "I'm right, you're wrong, and what's next?" has long been dealing with questions truth and lies. “Men often go for little lies to avoid conflict,” says Amador. The next time you feel like your loved one is getting into "writing" again, try the following tricks to bring them to the surface.

Give him space and he will be more talkative. Let him sit at one end of the room on the couch, and you sit at the other end, a few meters from him, and, best of all, on the carpet. When a man talks to someone visually below himself, he perceives this situation as not threatening him. And you carefully start asking questions that are related to his lies. Pretend that you are listening to it inattentively, clicking the TV remote control, looking at the laptop. This will give him the impression that the conversation is being conducted normally, and nothing resembles an interrogation.

This is where you strike. Also calmly, clearly, with a smile, ask him: “Listen, is there some special reason why you just told me that …” And formulate how he, in your opinion, deceived you. Let this sound not as an accusation, but as a benevolent question. Well, for example: “Listen, is there any special reason why you decided not to go to my mother tonight? I just want to understand." Remember that there should not be any pressure, a formidable tone, or strictness in your voice. A man needs to keep feeling safe.

When he confesses, then turn the conversation to some neutral pleasant topic, like buying a new TV soon or a vacation abroad. And then talk to him about how to make your relationship more open. Maybe even worth thanking the man for the fact that he still decided to tell the truth. Show him how much you value being honest.

Source:Cosmopolitan

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