Clin. Psychotherapist Jonis Webb shares a secret to improve your marriage.
Conversations between husband and wife usually touch on a variety of topics - work, children, vacation plans. One thing unites them: they are superficial and practically do not affect true feelings. Yes, not everyone knows how to open up to a partner - many of us were not taught to talk about feelings. It is for these couples that Webb offers a simple technique that will help make relationships closer and stronger.
There are “horizontal” questions you ask each other without thinking: “What are your plans for the weekend?”, “What to buy for dinner?” They are focused on collecting information. And there are “vertical” ones: they serve to understand the partner’s feelings and convey your own feelings to him. For example, you can ask: “How do you feel about this?”, “You look sad. What happened?”, “Why doesn’t your body language match what you say?”
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