When the atmosphere is heating up, it's time to show tact and avoid quarrels. We know 10 phrases that will help you strengthen relationships.
LET'S TAKE A BREAK, THINK IT OUT AND MAKE A DECISION
To stop the avalanche of negativity and claims, it's better to just stop the flow of conscious and unconscious verbal diarrhea, relax and think about why this quarrel was started at all? Maybe you're just taking out your bad mood on each other? If yes, then after the break you will relax a little, calm down and the cause of the conflict will “resolve” by itself.
LET'S THINK TOGETHER HOW TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM AND SAVE OUR RELATIONSHIP?
With this phrase you kill two birds with one stone: firstly, you show that relationships always come first for you and you don’t want to let any misunderstanding spoil them, and secondly, you agree to listen to all reasonable arguments in order to find compromise. Bravo, you are amazing!
YOU ARE MORE BEAUTIFUL THAN YOU ARE ANGRY
A crushing knockout of everything - to make a nice compliment and bring a kind smile. The fact is that any person who hears sincere admiration in his address produces the hormone serotin - the hormone of happiness - which also has a calming effect. Remember that you are looking to save the relationship, not destroy it.
OK, I UNDERSTAND YOU
When two people are at the stage of aggressive negotiations, everyone seeks first of all to convey their position to the interlocutor: what they didn’t like, what feelings this situation causes. But in fact, it is very, very important to really hear the other side, try to understand it and treat it with all possible respect. The phrase “I understand you” means that you have already moved to the level where the only thing left is to decide how to use the information received during the conflict for the benefit of the relationship.
HELP ME UNDERSTAND YOU
It happens that two people talk about completely different things, refusing to hear each other. If you understand that your opinions differ, ask the interlocutor to calmly and reasonably explain why he thinks this way and not otherwise, and what caused such a reaction. This will help resolve the conflict and make the relationship even stronger.
THOUGHT WE CAN SOLVE THIS PROBLEM, IT HAS BEEN WORSE
If there was a serious experience in your life that you have already overcome together, then the rest is the little things of life. Remind yourself and your partner that you are a team first and foremost. And the team always acts in the interests of preserving the union.
WHAT DO YOU THINK I CAN DO TO IMPROVE THE SITUATION?
Surely your interlocutor already has in his head the result he wants to achieve. It is important to understand what he really wants: your consent, some action, an act. Having learned this, you will be able to understand why this conflict was needed at all, what is required of you and whether you can make concessions.
LET'S LOOK AT THIS PROBLEM OTHERWISE
Of course, one of the main secrets of any relationship is the ability to look at any conflict from different angles. Are you angry that your partner decided to go fishing with his friends for the weekend? Naturally, you are upset that you will not be able to be alone with him, but, on the other hand, you have time for yourself! And it should be used to the maximum: sit with friends in a cafe, drink a couple of strong drinks or go to your favorite salon for a massage. A contented woman is a kind woman. He will come, see you beautiful and happy, and never want to leave you again.
LET'S TALK THIS WHEN WE ARE BOTH READY
Few people can come to peace when serious passions rage in their heads, offensive words come out and they want to prove their case. If the conflict becomes a battlefield, it is better to hand over your weapons and continue negotiations with a white flag the next day.
LET'S STOP CURRING RIGHT NOW
Mutual accusations, screams and tears can only aggravate the situation, delaying the solution of the problem. If you invite the interlocutor to stop, you accept the position of a reasonable person. There are cases when it is pointless to try to understand who is right and who is wrong. Source: cosmo.ru, photo: Fotoimedia.