Everything was quiet and peaceful, but then for some reason you say THIS - and away we go!
Can YOU REALLY DO IT?
Let's call a plumber or take the car to a tire shop? You're just making sure your spouse doesn't spend their evening rummaging through wires, hoses, and sawdust and cursing under his breath. And without guaranteed results. But for 99% of husbands, this phrase will instantly make their eyes bleed: you doubt his strength! You do not trust his experience and skills!
I WILL THROW THIS T-SHIRT
It's about time. For you, this is no longer a T-shirt at all, but an old and terrible rag. And for him, firstly, it is soft and cozy, and secondly, it has a print with Snoopy on it. Thirdly, be sure that he himself will figure out what and when to throw away, and you don’t need to tell him what to do, violate his personal boundaries and doubt his ability to choose his own clothes. Or maybe you are just shy of him - so tell me right away!
WHY CAN'T YOU BE LIKE ???
Like your dad. Like his dad. Like Brad Pitt, after all. In general, you seem to be just wondering why a husband cannot have some nice qualities and skills that would clearly improve your family life. And the husband hears a completely unambiguous message: the way he is, he does not suit you at all.
IS THERE ANYTHING YOU CAN DO RIGHT?
Very provocative question. You are also hinting that everything he does is bad by default, not right and at the wrong time, and that you are doing everything right and good, and at the same time you will tell him how everything should be. It may be true, but your husband will naturally perceive this as an attempt to control, as harsh criticism, and as your unjustified desire to become a leader in the family.
I TOLD YOU IT
This phrase is guaranteed to ruin the relationship. Screw it in more often and get conflict and self-righteousness. He is guaranteed to be furious when he hears a message about complete worthlessness. Photo: pixbay.