It is unlikely to avoid childish jealousy when another child appears. This is completely normal and something to prepare for.
CHILD JEYEY: WHAT TO DO?
- Do not hope that there will be no manifestations of childish jealousy between brothers and sisters at all. Even in the most friendly families, there is competition between children, and your task is to teach them to correctly and safely express their emotions, including anger and resentment towards each other.
- Do not compare children with each other - if only because they are different - in character and temperament, habits and talents. Each child can only be compared with himself: how he was yesterday or a year ago, what he learned, how he changed.
- Prepare the older child in advance for the arrival of the baby in the family, but do not promise that they will "play together" or "befriend": in fact, the baby will only take up most of the mother's time. Let the child get some real benefits of being older. How to deal with childish jealousy at the birth of a second child.
- Let each of the children receive daily personal attention from their parents. You can spend half an hour together before bed, or play sports, or just walk together - it is important that this time is for the two of you. Then there will be no childish jealousy.