Sometimes vague suspicions visit you, but you do not know whether to take them seriously? What changes in his behavior are worth paying attention to? Here are some common signs that something is being hidden from you.
HE TAKE THE PHONE WITH HIM WHEN GOING TO THE BATH
And often switches it to silent mode when you're together.
YOU RARELY SEE HIS FRIENDS
There's a chance they might spill the beans about his second life, and your husband takes you out less and less.
HE STARTED AVOIDING SPENDING TIME WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS
Double life takes time, and guilt also plays a part.
HE STARTED TO FORGET THE OBVIOUS
No, if he never remembered your anniversary or your birthday, that's fine. But if he stopped paying attention to it…
HE GOT SECRET WHEN IT COMES TO MONEY
Again, if you've always lived like this, maybe nothing strange is happening. But if you suddenly realize that you no longer understand how much he earns and how much he brings to the family, this is a reason to think.
HE ACCUSES YOU AND DOES THAT IS KNOWN TO BE UNFAIR
One of the characteristic features of an unclean conscience is to try to at least somehow accuse someone before whom you feel guilty. If unfair reproaches start pouring in on you, and you both know that they are unfair, the problem is on the other side. Characteristic in this case are reproaches of YOU for adultery, insensitivity, groundless jealousy.
THE WORK SUDDENLY IS MUCH TO DO
And he stays up late. An obvious sign, although in isolation from all the others it may mean nothing - sometimes there really is a lot to do.
HE IS NERVOUS WHEN YOU PICK HIS PHONE
Even if you just wanted to look at your watch.
HE IS BECOMING LESS AWESOME
Your new ritual is to turn off the light and silently go to bed.
HE AVOIDS HAVING SEX
It's not a sign by itself. In the end, even in faithful married couples, over time, there comes some calmness in bed. Again, don't forget that two people are involved in sex. And if you imperceptibly gained 50 kg, then the most faithful husband may "suddenly lose desire." But if nothing has changed on your part, you did not avoid him yourself, and other signs of his secrecy are added to this, only then this sign can be included in the guilty verdict. Why a man refuses sex.
HE GIVES YOU GUILT GIFTS
Sudden gifts for no reason - if this has not been characteristic of your loved one throughout your relationship - most likely a sign of a guilty conscience.
HIS MOOD STROKE IS GETTING MORE SERIOUS
And his problems are starting to affect your life more and more.
HE CARE MORE ABOUT HIS APPEARANCE AND NOT FOR YOU
Suddenly your "cute round dad" goes to the gym, gets a new haircut and doesn't care if you notice.
HE HAS BEEN FREQUENTLY LYING OR EXPECTING ABOUT SMALL THINGS WHEN IT IS NOT REQUIRED
Starting with a big lie, it's very easy to move on to constant petty lies. And after “No, I don’t smell like perfume” will go “Seriously, I only drank one beer” and “Yes, I called my mother, of course!”.
YOU FEEL INSIDE THAT YOU ARE LIE
All people have this ability to recognize lies, just not everyone listens to it. Signals from your body, such as clenching your jaw as if you've eaten something sour, tension in your neck muscles, abs, or a slight feeling of nausea, indicate that your brain reads discrepancies between the words and non-verbal cues of the interlocutor (facial expressions, intonation, etc.).).
For all that, none of the signals individually does not mean that you are being cheated on. You are being lied to, that's true. But lying can also be related to other issues that your husband doesn't want to let you in on - from money problems, he alth problems, to gambling, alcohol or other addictions.