Actually, no one argues, it's better to be friends with your husband's friends. But individual copies can bring real problems to your family.
He comes to your house, criticizes your borscht, teaches you how to raise children and never misses an opportunity to remind you that a woman's place is under the bench, and it's better not to stick your head out. With him, it is impossible to ask her husband for help (“it’s not a man’s business to take out the trash”) or to voice the idea of \u200b\u200bbuying a second car (“a woman at the wheel is a monkey with a grenade”). If everything is clearly beyond the scope of friendly jokes and if, in addition, your dear suddenly starts to behave the same way, then you will have to dot the i.
What to do?
Firstly, calmly tell a friend in the presence of her husband that his words offend you and, at least in your house, you will not tolerate them. Secondly, already without a friend, gently hint to your beloved that male chauvinism suffers (it suffers!) Most often men with an inferiority complex. They even say that it seems to them that something is wrong with their size. But there's no need for you, honey, to behave like that, because you're definitely fine, mur-mur-mur…
In any company of exemplary family men there is sure to be a renegade - still unmarried, but very energetic. He is also charming, so at first he is drawn to fall in love with him (already dangerous). But for such, every day is a holiday and a new girl. And this girl just has a girlfriend, and why don't the four of them with your husband hang out, as in the old days, in the sauna or hit the road for a couple of days in a sanatorium? What about something like that? The worst thing is that these bachelor thoughts may begin to cross your spouse's mind as well.
What to do?
The surest remedy against such provocateurs is to marry him to some friend of yours. Then the legal half will follow his adventures, and you can relax a bit.
Pretty nasty guy leading the double life you know. At home, the wife, and fishing with friends, without hesitation, takes her “beloved”. Practice shows that after a while, other men in the company acquire "exit" ladies of the heart, forgetting at home not only wives, but also fishing rods.
What to do?
The most effective way is to start collecting your company. Take the initiative, call his friends with their wives to visit, organize joint holidays, bowling trips and a gym. This way you will achieve several goals at once: firstly, cheaters will have less time for conditional “fishing”, secondly, relations between spouses will (most likely) improve, and thirdly, this way you will make it clear to both your husband and friends, whose side are you on and what will you absolutely not tolerate.
It doesn't matter what he is obsessed with - slot machines in the club or betting on the outcome of the competition. He abandons all his interests, including work, because he is sorry to waste time on it, gets entangled in loans and takes valuables out of the house, because he has to play for something. If he has a family, then his wife is most likely brought to the handle there and would not wish anyone to be in her place. The dangers are clear: a) gambling is contagious, and friends often fall into the same traps, b) these guys are constantly in need of money, so the request to “borrow until next week, when he definitely wins back” will be surprisingly regular.
What to do?
This guy actually has a big problem. Such manias are akin to alcoholism, and almost never go away on their own. Let your husband read a couple of articles on the topic, maybe he will be able to persuade a friend to visit a psychotherapist. You will have to make an effort, because all talk about addiction always causes denial and rage in the addict. But if you did everything you could, and there is no result, you will have to maintain a sanitary distance - his problems should not become the problems of your couple.
Perhaps this couple formed back in kindergarten: one toddler is always in wet pants and with half-eaten porridge, the other is always ready to change clothes, wipe his nose and even finish eating his porridge so that the teachers do not swear. Years passed, the little ones grew up, but their relationship remained about the same. And now your husband now and then saves a seemingly independent man from various troubles. Either fixing his car on the only day off, then taking away from the guests, because he went over, then looking for a new accountant for him, because the old business does not work at all.
What to do?
If the role of the savior flatters the husband and keeps him in good shape, then okay, no problem. But if you live in a constant waiting mode “what else happened with Vasya” and already annoyedly cancel family picnics for him, then Vasya has clearly begun to interfere with your relationship. Remind your husband that there are car services, taxis and recruitment agents, as well as many other services that will not let a person disappear in this world. In the end, let him give a friend the main gift in life - let him grow up.