Marie Kondo's incredible and effective method that will change your life forever.
Japanese expert Marie Kondo's book "The Magic of Cleaning" has already become a bestseller in many countries. The method is based on an unusual approach: "clean once - and no more mess." If you think this is impossible, then you are wrong.
based on Marie Kondo's The Magic of Cleaning
Getting rid of what you don't need in one fell swoop
Get out in the right order. The cleaning process involves solving only two tasks: throwing out unnecessary things and deciding where to store things. Throwing out should come first! And before you take on the second problem, solve the first first. As soon as you have the thought, “I wonder if this will fit in a box?” - work to get rid of unnecessary stops.
Before you start throwing away things, take the time to think carefully. This means a detailed visualization of the lifestyle you dream of. Imagine how you would like to live. If not, grab a couple of interior magazines or visit showrooms for inspiration.
Now that you have imagined your ideal lifestyle, it's time to think - why do you need it? Ask yourself this question a few times and you will come to a simple realization: the whole point of getting rid of unnecessary things and keeping the things you need is to be happy.
Selection principle: Does it bring joy?
When there is an obvious reason, things are easy to get rid of. For example, something broke, fell into disrepair, went out of fashion. But what if there is no such obvious reason?
The best way to choose what to keep and what to throw away is to pick up each item and ask, "Does this make you happy?" If it does, keep it; if not, discard it. Go to the closet and hold each rag in your hands. When you touch a piece of clothing, the body reacts to it. His reactions to each subject are different from each other. Try it! Answer the questions:
- Are you happy wearing clothes you don't enjoy?
- Do you feel the joy of unread books that don't touch your heart?
- Do you think that owning accessories you will never use will bring you happiness?
Now imagine that you live in a space where there are only those things that spark joy from your soul. Isn't this the lifestyle you dream of?
When you've done this, take the plunge and throw everything else away.
One category at a time
Let me start with what not to do. Don't think, "First I'll clean the bedroom and then the living room." or "Walk through the drawers of the writing steel, starting at the top and moving down." This is a fatal error. Most people don't store items of the same type in one place. They are stored in two or more places scattered throughout the house. Therefore, it is important to think in terms of category, not place.
Before deciding what to keep and what to throw away, collect all the things that fall into one category. For example: bring all the clothes you can find and put them together. This will give you a clear idea of how much stuff you have. Most will be shocked at the sheer volume of things. Plus, you'll be able to compare similarly designed items, making it easier to decide what to throw away and what to keep.
The process will go much faster if you start with items that are easier to decide on. Clothes are the easiest, because memories are rarely associated with this category and things, as a rule, are not unique. But photographs and letters are not the best start for beginners, they are best left for dessert. The best sequence of actions is as follows: clothes first, then books, documents, the miscellaneous category, and finally sentimental items and mementos.
Don't let your family peek
At this stage, the only catastrophe that can create even more chaos than an earthquake is the arrival of a recycling expert, who is also known by the pseudonym "Mom". If possible, take out the garbage bags yourself. Don't let family members see what's going on. There is no need to let your family know what you are going to throw away.
When relatives see this, they may feel guilty about such outright waste, but the items they "rescue" from the trash heap will only increase the burden of unnecessary things in your home. In most cases, it is the mothers who “rescue” things thrown away by their daughters, and in the end they invariably throw them away, never even wearing them. Therefore, before starting cleaning, it is better to ask relatives in advance if there are things that they planned to buy? If you happen to find exactly what you need along the way, give them the item.
If you're mad at your family, it could be your room
If your family doesn't cooperate with you in trying to create the "perfect" home, it can be very annoying. Even if you clean up, the rest of the family makes a mess again. But throwing away things that belong to other people without their permission is a lack of common sense, and besides, it is simply wrong.
Instead, calmly work on getting rid of your excesses. This is the best way to deal with a family that is not accustomed to order. Seeing your actions, relatives themselves will begin to "weed" unnecessary things and clean their rooms. It may seem incredible, but when someone starts cleaning, a chain reaction starts.
Quiet self-cleaning creates another change - the ability to put up with the slovenliness of family members. You should start by getting rid of your own unnecessary things. And the common territory can be left for later.
What you don't need, your family doesn't need either
The "gift to little sister" method is the perfect way to get rid of unwanted items and unwanted clothes. "Do you want this shirt? If you like her, take her. She's brand new and pretty! But if you don't need it, I'll have to throw it away. What do you say?" Younger kids get used to wearing old rags, so they tend to hoard clothes they don't really like.
As a result, they have no real need to go shopping, and therefore less opportunity to understand what really gives them joy. Giving away things you can't use to other people is a great idea. But this is not the same as imposing unnecessary things on family members. In essence, you are simply conveying to them your guilt about not being able to part with them yourself. If you want to give away an item, do not force or pressure the person.
What to do if you can't throw something away
Items that we can't throw away, even if they don't bring joy, are the real problem. Although we intuitively understand that this object does not attract us in any way, our mind puts forward all sorts of arguments in favor of not throwing it away, for example: “I may need this later” or “throwing it away is wasteful.”
When faced with something like this, carefully consider why you have that particular item in the first place. When did you get it and what did it mean to you? If you've ever bought an outfit but never wore it because it doesn't suit you, it has already served another important function: letting you know that certain things don't suit you.
When you think about the true purpose of this or that thing in life, you will be surprised to learn how many items that you own have already fulfilled their role. Release them with gratitude. Throwing away what you no longer need is not wasteful and not a shameful act. Ultimately, all you have left will be exactly what you truly treasure.