4 types of couples. New research on relationship duration

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4 types of couples. New research on relationship duration
4 types of couples. New research on relationship duration

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4 types of pairs. New research on relationship duration

There is a good definition for a passionate romantic relationship: "Those who like to refer to the story of Romeo and Juliet usually forget that their story lasted three days and ended with five corpses."

It's all true. Now, for forgetful romantics, scientific data can also be cited.

A new study from the University of Illinois has reduced all possible relationships in couples to four main types. Researcher Brian Ogolsky studied the relationships of 376 unmarried couples with an average partner age of about 20 years. He argues that the behavior of partners can predict how strong and lasting their relationship will be. And will they have a future at all.

For 9 months, a group of researchers led by Professor Ogolsky studied the relationship of all 376 couples and recorded the changes taking place. It is important to note that at the beginning of the experiment, all subjects expressed their intention to get married in the near future. However, only a small part made it to the wedding.

So, all the couples that were observed during the study, the scientists managed to classify into the following categories: dramatic, conflict, socially involved and mutually oriented.

Dramatic couples accounted for 34%. What characterizes them? They spend little time together, and their meetings are characterized by a violent intensity of passions. They are strongly drawn to each other, but this passion quickly turns into conflicts, as soon as they converge. After that, the partners scatter again, so that after the break they again rush into each other's arms. The intensity of passions is high, the viability of relationships is the lowest. Only a few reached the wedding.

Conflict couples, 12%. They spend more time together, but are mostly busy sorting things out and mutual claims. They quickly get tired of each other, part with noticeable relief, they usually do not feel the desire to return to a relationship with their former partner. The second from the end group for the duration of the relationship. Less than half of couples in conflict survive to get married.

Socially engaged, 19%. They are more present in relationships than all previous groups, but communication takes place mainly through social networks and by correspondence. Relations are more even and calm, two-thirds of the couples did not break up before the wedding.

Mutually oriented pairs. Made up about 30%. Their difference is that they spent the most time together, in live communication, and in case of conflicts they were inclined to make concessions to each other. The conflicts themselves occurred less frequently than in all other categories. 90% of mutually oriented partners reached the wedding.

As you can see, a small part of the couples did not fit into any of the categories, as they showed signs of all four at once.

Well, the conclusions are the most natural: the more the feelings boil, the faster they boil away, in most cases. And if you drip on each other's brains and fight for superiority - most likely you will hate each other even before marriage.

And only a calm and respectful relationship allows you to build at least some plans for the future. So I'm sorry Romeo, but you'll have to drink the poison somehow without me.

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