On the eve of the New Year Ekaterina Mikhailova, psychotherapist, leading trainer of the Institute of Group and Family Psychology and Psychotherapy, tells how psychodramatic play helps not only to cope with difficulties, but also to create small miracles.
New Year is a serious holiday, a kind of “transition”, when we want to take stock, look into the future, find out our fate. Even the most serious and pragmatic people at this time are waiting for magic: magical thinking “turns on”, a special mood appears, feelings are aggravated - but at the same time fatigue, excitement and anxiety increase. These exercises will help you learn something new about yourself!
Talk and say goodbye
Probably, each of us has such a mysterious thing at home - it has not been needed for a long time, it has not been used, but the hand does not rise to throw it away. When tidying up before the holidays, find a similar thing that "doesn't want to leave." Now enter into her image, imagine that she is talking to you: what would she say? What would you complain about? What could you remember? Perhaps this dress is from your youth, and it will tell you that it remembers you young and slender, full of plans and would like to stay with you further - as a symbol of youth? Or maybe it's something really unnecessary, with which it will finally be possible to say goodbye - and leave?
The whole second half of December we will be subject to holiday fever. Let's try to do it differently: at least a week before the New Year, choose a "demon of unnecessary things" - assign them a newspaper or just a rag. Remember what this spirit pushed you into in past years when you bought mountains of delicious, but far from always needed food: so that guests would not go hungry, elegant clothes (the holiday is the same), souvenirs and symbols of the year. Remember this New Year's excitement, excess, when you want everything at once. Consider that your daemon is commercially oriented! Imagine how now he is calling you again, tempting you, waiting, giggling at how he deceived you. Now take it and shake it - it's just a newspaper, it has no power over you! The traits of our Inner Child are emotionality and imagination, excitement, spontaneity, joy and ingenuity. But do not forget that our Child is also a greedy and envious person, often does not want to reckon with reality, but does not mind getting everything at once. But you can train him, learn to “take control” in time, when the Child flirts, and the demon of unnecessary things is right there.
Look into the past
In the holiday bustle, we think a lot about how to please loved ones, but we often forget about ourselves. Get out an album with your childhood photos, choose one that you especially like, consider, remember yourself - that one. Think about what you today could do for this girl. Think about what she has not played for a long time, what she would like to learn, what is interesting to see, what is tasty to try. She is now a reflection of your Inner Child. And it would be good to show attention to him regularly, let him be supervised. You can even mentally agree with yourself on such a project: "Five small good deeds for yourself - every day." And it's not as easy as it looks!
What is psychodrama
Psychodrama as a method of psychotherapy will soon turn 100 years old, its creator - Jacob Levi Moreno - was the first to use dramatic, stage action in his work. There is a misconception that this "stage", "theatrical" method is suitable only for creative people - after all, "drama" is often understood as a kind of ex altation, if not tragedy. This is not so, and in order for psychodrama to help answer questions, solve some difficulties, or help you better understand yourself, no special personal qualities are needed. This is a very flexible method with many possibilities. This is working on a problem with the help of an action that will be in many ways more truthful than words, it is an opportunity to make a new acquaintance with your feelings, “unappropriated” parts, images, to understand and relive a variety of life situations.
Psychodrama is the magic of play and surprise, and it does a great job of handling what people most often ask for. In the childhood of today's adults, there were many traumatic moments, silent, unprocessed situations. And this is not accidental: several generations in our country were focused on survival, and not on life. Many of us have a difficult relationship with the rules, with the "must" - because from childhood we have the need for obedience, fear of authority and resistance to it. And psychodrama can help you understand where this attitude comes from and grow your own inner authority - as an inner figure. Our culture is characterized by distrust of words, but one of the main principles of psychodrama copes with this - "Don't tell, but show how it was."
The goal of any therapy is change, and this method promotes change, but, like any psychotherapeutic approach, it will not work for the person, without his participation. Psychodrama is spontaneity and creativity, it is a search for the unexpected in oneself, it is work with an image.
You will be able to look at the situation from your life from the outside - not as a participant, but as a spectator - and see completely unexpected manifestations of interaction. You will be able to change roles with other members of the psychodramatic group, be a different person, object, phenomenon, learn and understand something new in your relationship with the world. Psychodrama gives you a chance to meet with a variety of feelings - and they help you look at things differently, learn more about yourself, decide to try something, or even change your life.