If your intuition tells you that something has changed in your relationship, check if your sweetheart has started to behave in this way. And if so, he is most likely cheating on you.
He is unusually attentive to your desires and requests
It would be okay to behave like this from the first day of meeting, then there is no doubt. But no: before, he had to be persuaded for six months to visit your parents or go for a walk - there were always excuses. And now he suddenly became frequent with flowers and compliments. Family psychologists explain this behavior as a feeling of guilt that gnaws at a man from the inside. Excessive attention is also an attempt to dull the vigilance of a loved one. A red herring, so to speak.
He started giving presents. Lots of gifts
To your bewilderment: “Why?” - he, smiling broadly, answers: “I made a deal of the century, I received a luxurious percentage. Can I spoil my beloved? In fact, he does not indulge, but seems to be trying to pay off. If once the deception is revealed, he will have a weighty argument: “Yes, I cheated on you, but you didn’t feel deprived of attention!” And if the secret remains a secret, he will begin to reassure himself: “Yes, I changed it. But moral damage compensated in full. Those mink coats…”
He became very short-tempered and inattentive
Any of your remarks seems to him an insult, and every disagreement ends in a grandiose scandal, at the end of which the door slams loudly. He leaves, of course. In fact, the scenes are played out for a reason. The scandal allows him, hiding behind resentment, to run away from home. And the mobile can be turned off. And coming home at 4 o'clock in the morning seems to be permissible. And to your question "Where have you been?" answer with indifferent silence or sharply: “What difference does it make to you?” He won’t say directly that he was specifically looking for a reason to quarrel in order to sneak away on a date…
He talks about breaking up
And if earlier during quarrels he was often the first to reconcile, now he more often offers: "Since everything is so bad, let's break up!" It is no less suspicious when, in moments of calm and external well-being, he casually asks you: “If we suddenly part, can we remain friends?” Philosophizing: "Do you believe that love can last forever?" Or he thinks: “True love is also forgiveness …” What is hidden behind such statements? First, he tries to shift the responsibility for making decisions onto you. And at the same time, he probes the soil: will he be able to return if he still leaves. Why not an argument: “You promised to love me forever!”
His mood keeps changing
He is either gentle and attentive, or cold and gloomy. Either he returns home in high spirits, then he is depressed. Of course, men also have “critical days”, and the phase of the moon plays an important role. But only in the case of an affair on the side, it is much easier to find an explanation for mood swings. Any problems that happen in one relationship affect the other. Law of life. And beer slogans have nothing to do with it.
He stopped talking to you
No, of course, he says the usual phrases, but avoids heart-to-heart conversations. He no longer cares about your experiences and emotions. Yes, and he stopped sharing with you. Until recently, you knew what he cares about, what projects he is preparing for. Now we are in an information vacuum. An unfaithful man subconsciously closes, moves away … The same thing happens with household chores. He avoids household chores. No longer talks about possible repairs, no longer makes vacation plans.
He's hiding
Leaves to call on work issues on the balcony or in another room. And he began to close the bathroom door on the latch. Previously, you could easily enter for a tonic or cream. Now you have to wait for the end of the water procedures, and your knock sounds annoyed: “Can’t you wait five minutes?” Psychologists assure: the open door to the bathroom is an unconscious manifestation of trust. When a person has something to hide, he builds walls around himself: both psychological and quite material.
He tries not to be alone with you
He invites noisy friends to visit, then he hurries to the bachelor party. On weekends, he always has urgent business in the office. Staying at home, he prefers to delve into a book, turn on the TV or go to bed early. Communication is the minimum. And if conversations still cannot be avoided, he tries to talk about acquaintances, events in the world, a new online game, but not about you.
He eagerly began to take care of himself
Bought new clothes. Chose a new perfume. Got a stylish haircut. Signed up for the gym. It seems to be nothing unusual. It’s even nice when a man is smart, neat and clean-shaven. One thing is confusing: why did the image change happen overnight? And important negotiations (at which you need to look your best) now almost every day?
He picks on everything
He used to find your long hair attractive. Now, more and more irritably grumbling about how much you spend on care products. Once, in response to your exclamation, “It seems to me that I have recovered,” he raked you in an armful and whispered: “You are the most beautiful in the world! My Donut! And yesterday he just shrugged his shoulders indifferently: “Indeed, the gym will not hurt.” Finally, he began to find fault with food: “A lot of mayonnaise. All overcooked." When there is someone to compare with, willy-nilly, someone should be in the red. If he's having an affair, it's obvious who will be "in the Antarctic zone."
You hardly ever have sex
He is totally tired, and the only thing he dreams about is sleep. When, thanks to your passionate persistence, intimacy does happen (a rare case!), He is distant or rude. She doesn't even remember your orgasm. But as soon as you try to talk about this problem, it immediately closes. Or even defiantly declares: “I don’t know about you, but personally I don’t have problems with sex.”
He is insanely jealous
Defiantly looks through your messages and incoming calls. Leafing through the diary. Requires a report on your business meetings: with whom, when, why. As soon as you mention the name of a colleague, a whole story swells out of this: “And he is no longer Alexey, but simply Lesha. Come on, tell me about your Leshechka. The saying "Jealous means love" has nothing to do with reality. The proof of love is trust and respect. Unreasonably suspecting you of treason, he tries to shift his guilt onto you.
He is annoyed by your care and attention
Everything you do is bad. Call to find out how things are - "Stop checking me." You come to work with him as a surprise - “Are you following me?” Gave a sweater - "Sucking up?" He already feels guilty and a traitor, and the evidence of your love only once again reminds him of this. That's why he's so angry.
Your loved ones notice your relationship has changed
Increasingly, friends and family ask you cautiously, "Are you all right?" - "Everything is fine, it's just that he has been working a lot lately, getting tired." Although in your heart you do not believe in yourself. You, too, something worries and confuses. But, fearing pain and disappointment, you drive such thoughts away from yourself and look for familiar explanations for what is happening. Family psychologists testify that many who survived the betrayal of a loved one later admitted: “Everyone around me kept telling me that something was wrong. I didn't notice one." Or maybe they just didn't want to notice. It is also true that tensions and disagreements in a relationship are always obvious from the outside.
He no longer talks about your future together
When you're trying to plan something, he cuts you off: "We'll see."