“From childhood, parents begin to rape their children with professional sports, convincing them that they really need it. Depriving them not only of their childhood, but in general of the idea that they might want something …”Psychologist Anastasia Tomilina wrote a post about Yulia Lipnitskaya’s departure from sports, where she spoke sharply about the cost of making athletes out of children.
Skater Yulia Lipnitskaya recently retired. The girl is 19 years old. All her life she wanted to be who she became. She worked like an ox, endured abuse and fulfilled the dreams of her parents and other stakeholders.
Now these people and other well-wishers are talking about the need to take care of themselves.
That she grew up, her female forms began to form, and she lost that former … "twist". And she, for sure, was told from all sides: you need to lose weight in order to return the “twist”. And her mother, for sure, supported her in this. And now everyone is shrugging their shoulders and saying that “we should have taken care of our he alth.”
The girl has anorexia. According to various sources, this disease has a mortality rate of up to 30%, this is the only mental disorder that claims so many lives.
And this is a girl who has been bullied since childhood, forcing her to be a trained monkey and fulfill the wishes of her parents so that she becomes famous and wins medals for her country. Everyone admired her because she was "cool", and now these same people shrug their shoulders and say some garbage about the fact that they had to take care of themselves. Protect from whom? From parents? Trainers? Sports Committee? She did what you wanted her to do.
Many of those who consider themselves to be good people do not go to the zoo and circus, because animals are tortured there. But watching sports on TV, few people understand that everything is the same there. Only in the arena and in the cage are human cubs.
From childhood, parents begin to rape their children with professional sports, convincing them that they really need it. Depriving them not only of childhood, but in general of the idea that they might want something … The whole life of these children from an early age is laid on the altar of parental ambitions. They train like clockwork and everyone dreams of standing on a podium. Someone is lucky, and he becomes famous, but how many of those who also get sick, suffer, who are told: lose weight, they lose weight, get sick, and then they are written off as scrap because they do not hold out.
It seemed to the girl Yulia Lipnitskaya that she wanted to be what she had become. All her own desires and her own emotions, thoughts were beaten off from her. She is hardly human. She is a zombie who has failed her next "weight loss" challenge. More precisely, she managed, but she fell ill, let the team down. And now it will hurt for a long time and hard.
It's a pity for a girl who might still find something in life, maybe one day she will go to psychotherapy and win back at least a grain of her own personality, which did not exist until now.
Big sport is, in most cases, child abuse, which we encourage. We are all indignant at how a 16-year-old girl in Chechnya is given in marriage to a 53-year-old? Yes? But why don’t we still “save” children from those who bully them from the age of 3-4, making them sports stars?
Why is no one talking about the violence that is happening in rhythmic gymnastics, for example? How girls are “torn” so that they stretch better, and parents are asked to leave the hall so as not to hear children's cries. Is it only sexual violence that is scary and disfigures the psyche? Is Lipnitskaya a lesser victim of parental arbitrariness than a child subjected to incest? No. Much to my regret.
Anorexia, in a sense, gives the star figure skater a chance, which her parents and those in whose clutches she fell into, to represent the country. Her illness has led to the fact that the country no longer needs her. But maybe now she can get her life back.